You know how it is, right, ladies? You know a guy for a while. You hang out with him. You do fun things with him—play video games, watch movies, go hiking, go to concerts. You invite him to your parties. You listen to his problems. You do all this because you think he wants to be your friend.
|Woman:||I'm not really into him that way, but he's a good friend.|
|Patriarchy:||Ew, friend zone level one billion.|
|Woman:||I like to hook up with him, but I'm not looking for a relationship.|
|Woman:||I'm happy being single.|
|Patriarchy:||Haha, good one. You need a man.|
|Woman:||I love my girlfriend!|
|Patriarchy:||Hawt. Y'all looking for a third?|
|Woman:||I love my boyfriend!|
|Patriarchy:||Jeez back up, you're smothering him.|
|Woman:||He dumped me and that sucks.|
|Patriarchy:||God you psycho bitch, get over him!|
Judith Butler uses the term, “gender performativity” to describe the discursive production of an inner “true” gendered subject. Gender is characterized by a stylized repetition of acts that give the illusion of natural legibility, while obscuring the contradictions of any single person’s gender act. Nonetheless, the cultural fiction that is gender is hard to expose as long as the credibility of other gender performances and identities is undermined and threatened with punishment.
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